Scroll queer TikTok and youll find thousands of clips tagged #sobergasm, filled with couples raving about mind-blowing sober sex, dancers dripping with post-club euphoria, and breath-work devotees describing trippy highs with zero substances involved. After years of pandemic partying and hangxiety, a growing slice of LGBTQ+ folks are exploring pleasure minus the pour. Theyre calling the peak sensations sobergasms, and insisting the rush rivals any boozy buzz.So what exactly is happening when everything feels orgasmic, yet nothing stronger than sparkling water is in play? We asked three prossex educator Birna Gustafsson, pjur in-house sexologist Tim Lagman, and relationship expert Zachary Zaneto break down the trend.What is a sobergasm, anyway?A sobergasm is a portmanteau of sober and orgasm, used to describe the more intense or heightened orgasms people can experience when theyre sober, says Zane, noting that people within the queer communities often rely on drugs or alcohol to enhance their experience.Lagman agrees, adding, Its that rush of pleasure, emotional intensity, or spiritual clarity that feels orgasmic, but its entirely sober. While it can happen during sex, its not limited to erotic moments.In terms of TikTok discourse, Gustafsson notes that it can mean a literal lights-out climax, a festival-floor natural high, or simply a modern spin on straight edge, but centered more on pleasure than abstinence. Your brain on a natural highDuring a sobergasm, the body releases a cocktail of feel-good chemicals, including dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins, Lagman explains. Its the same neurochemical symphony behind orgasm or runners high, just triggered by breath, movement, or deep connection instead of alcohol.Gustafsson adds that while no actual genital orgasm occurs in many cases, feeling autonomy, confidence, release, and joy can mimic the rush of arousal. In other words, the circuitry is there, but the switch is just flipped differently.Why queer folks are swapping cocktails for clarityQueer nightlife has long revolved around bars, clubs, and chemsex scenes, sometimes as a refuge, and others as an escape. But thats shifting.Research shows that queer individuals tend to have higher rates of drug use and abuse compared to their straight counterparts, Zane says, with the American Addiction Centers showing that LGBTQ+ adults are more than twice as likely to use illicit drugs and suffer from a substance use disorder as their straight counterparts. Its understandable that some might seek out substance-free euphoria as an alternativeespecially in response to the often pervasive party and sex culture.Lagman sees the same pivot, noting post-pandemic introspection, rising wellness culture, and a generational craving for authentic intensity. Meanwhile, Gustafssons college workshops are packed with students asking how alcohol affects consent and pleasure. The idea of going out and having fun requires drinking is starting to grow old. As people feel more empowered to express their LGBTQ+ identities at a younger age than before, spaces that allow for connection for those under 21 set the tone for how they connect in later years.How to access a sobergasmExperiencing a sobergasm for yourself may be difficult, especially if youre more used to the traditional party scene of old. To try it on for yourself, Lagman rattles off the greatest hits:Sex with intention think tantric breath, somatic focus, [lube], and eye contact that doesnt blur.Music & dance sober raves and ecstatic dance where the beat drives a visceral high.Breathwork & meditation holotropic sessions or deep chanting that tip you into altered states.Nature & movement hiking, swimming, pole dancing, even cold plunges.Authentic connection vulnerability floods the brain with oxytocin, which bypasses the need for artificial simulation.Zane adds therapy to the toolkit, as well. It helps you explore the roots of why you might feel the need to drink to enjoy intimacywhat fears or shame are underlying those habits? Addressing these emotions can make sober sex more accessible and pleasurable, he says. Gustafssons also encourages people to practice flirting sober, which can be incredibly empowering once youve done the work of regulating your emotions when facing rejection. Sex, sobriety & the myth that booze is betterDespite marketing that pairs cocktails with confidence, alcohol can blunt sensation and stall orgasm.Alcohol and drugs can actually inhibit intimacy, says Zane. They can make it harder to be present, reach orgasm, or feel emotionally connected.Sobriety changes that emotional connection. Lagman describes partners taking their time and tuning into each others breath. Gustafsson notes this challenges chemsex norms that equate queer pleasure with narcotics. Sobergasms, as silly of a TikTok trend they may be, push back on this idea and show that you dont need to rely on anything but yourself to feel good. Yes, sober sex can feel raw at firstno haze to hide behindbut many discover its like having sex for the first time again, with full presence, Lagman says.Keeping sobergasms authentic (and hype-proof)Wellness buzzwords, like many trends, come with a branding risk.Theres a risk of companies or influencers offering superficial or misleading advice, or trying to commodify this experience for profit, Zane warns.Sobergasm could be turned into a hashtag to sell retreats, Lagman echoes. At its core, this concept is free. Its DIY. It belongs to the people, not the marketers.Gustafsson is skeptical of unregulated supplements that promise instant ecstasy. Most of these products rely on placebo effects, she says. If something is telling you youll have great sex, the possibility of having great sex, and the permission to seek it out are enough to ignite desire.Bringing sobergasms to your sexual practiceUltimately, reframing sobriety is about addition, not subtraction. Zane lists the gains: cash saved, deeper intimacy, no hangovers, sharper self-awareness. Lagman calls it awakening. Gustafsson sums it up:Sobriety isnt about what you cut out of your life, its about what you get back.So whether your next mind-blowing moment happens mid-breathwork, on a sunrise hike, or naked in bed with nothing stronger than lube and trust, remember: the most powerful drug might already be coursing through your own queer, vibrant body. Drink it inno chaser required.